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Dating the rich and famous

At a holiday party over the weekend, a friend revealed that he had dated a now-famous TV star while they were both in college. Everyone asked him what she was like. His response? “Oddly enough, she never watched TV. She said all the shows were boring. She wanted to be on Broadway instead.”

I found that tidbit interesting. So all weekend long, I asked people if they had dated some rich, famous, or important — and to tell me one odd or endearing thing about them. This being L.A., I got a lot of responses. Here are the results, with names withheld to protect the innocent.

  • Big-name music video director – “He played Dungeons & Dragons every Thursday, so we could never get together that night. He would rather roll dice with his friends than have sex with me. This was after he got famous.”
  • Well-known liberal activist – “She would order wine for total strangers in restaurants and insist to be kept anonymous.”
  • NFL quarterback – “Honestly, he could barely read. And now he makes millions of dollars.”
  • Member of Congress – “I know you won’t believe this, but she’s a very religious, conservative Republican but she was an absolute animal in bed. It was like a movie.”
  • Director of comedy movies – “Never tipped anyone. Ever. It was embarrassing.”
  • Indie film actor – “He was just famous enough to start getting recognized, and when people asked for his autograph, he was so sweet about it. He seemed really touched. Even when they were bothering us, he took the time to talk to them.”
  • Rock star – “She was in a band in college, but she always missed rehearsal (usually to see me) and hardly ever practiced. She even missed two or three shows. I don’t know when she ever got around to learning to play music.”

Have you dated a celebrity, either before or after they made it big? Do you know someone who has? Tell me about it! You can comment here or write to me privately at


Looking forward, looking back

My film debut was June 26, 1974. A few days ago, I celebrated my 34th birthday.

Many people, old and young, have expressed their birthday wishes to me at my parties, through this blog, and on my MySpace and Facebook pages.

But it’s I who must thank them. For keeping me alive on screens big and small. For keeping my spirit alive by living life to the fullest, embracing their beauty and their bodies, and by never feeling ashamed by their sexual feelings.

Whether you discovered me in a theater in Paris that first summer, or on cable TV in the 80’s, or on DVD in this new century, thank you for staying with me and following my adventures.

My story hasn’t ended. A lot has changed since 1974, but romance and beauty are two ideals that will never disappear. And I will continue to embody those values in a new series of films and a new site coming later this year.

Like all birthdays, I’ve used the occasion to look back at my accomplishments.

But I’m also looking ahead at what’s to come — and I love what I see.



I’ve received a number of emails from all over the world, so I thought I’d take this opportunity to respond to a few of them.

Helena from North Hollywood, California asked where to find my films. There are a lot of them, from the 1974 original to home video releases in the 21st century. You can catch me on Cinemax or buy most of my DVD’s on Amazon. And remember, my name has two M’s and two L’s — any other spelling is an impostor!

Philippe from Calais, France asked a lot of questions. The best was, “What was the strangest time or place you met a future boyfriend?”
Possibly at college. Our mascot was a wildcat, and members of the football team took turns taking care of it. One day I was studying by myself, out in a field on the far corner of campus, and saw this thing run by; the cat was out! His handler came rushing after it, and begged me to help him.  Using candy as bait, we coaxed it back into its cage. The guy thanked me and introduced himself as a wide receiver on the team. We were together for the whole school year. How’s that for a first date — wrangling a cougar?

Shovana from Columbus, Ohio, asked, “I look at models and feel ugly and fat. You say that every woman is beautiful in her own way, but do you actually believe that?”
Standards of beauty are always changing. Models are stick-thin today, but just 30 years ago, Cheryl Tiegs and Farrah Fawcett had wonderfully womanly curves. In the 80’s, big, blow-dried, over-sprayed hair was considered gorgeous; now we laugh at it. Since the trends come and go, why try to keep up? Decide what you want to be and become that, not for the people on the street or the men in your life, but for you.

Toshiya from Nagano, Japan asked, “I’ve been a fan of yours since the 80’s. Are you really coming back?”
I am. Right now there’s a worldwide search for the next Emmanuelle to star in a whole new series of films. And later this year, I’ll be launching a sex and romance site where you can share your experiences, post photos, get advice, and watch original erotic videos.

I love getting mail!  You can write to me at, on Facebook, or on MySpace.


Secret Admirer

It began a few weeks ago.

First, I found a single red rose on my doorstep. No note or card.

A few days later, I came home to find a bottle of champagne waiting for me. Pretty expensive stuff, too.

Then I found a box of chocolates in the same place. Cliché? Yes. But also delicious.

Finally, on Saturday, there was a pair of diamond stud earrings by my door.

I have no idea on who is behind these gifts. I have to admit, the mystery is exhilarating.

Have you ever had — or been — a secret admirer? What happened?

And what should I do in this situation? What should the mystery man do? Do you think he’ll ever come out of the shadows?


How many steps to beautiful?

I’ve been reading Sex and the Office, written in 1964 by Helen Gurley Brown, the former editor of Cosmopolitan. The book guides working single girls through the swingin’ 60’s. It’s amazing what advice remains timeless and what is laughably outdated.

In the chapter “Make Up and Live,” Ms. Brown explains the steps to applying make-up each morning. All sixteen of them.

And I wondered, does a beautiful face really require sixteen steps? I usually wear foundation, blush, lipstick, mascara, and eyeliner. That’s five. But do I even need those? As I wrote in Unexpectedly Sexy, some men love it when women dress down — does that include make-up, too?

Have you ever had to rush out of the house in the morning without applying your full make-up? Or finishing your hair? What did the men in your office say? How about the women?

I sometimes wear less make-up over the weekend, and sometimes more, depending on what I’m doing. Maybe I’ll take a risk the next two days and wear nothing at all…


Unexpectedly Sexy

I’ve been thinking a lot about clothes lately. I’ve realized that while I think I only look sexy in a few outfits — a black evening dress, or just the right swimsuit — the men in my life have found me irresistible when I’m dressed down, hair a mess, not even wearing any makeup. I did a little unscientific polling and came up with a few casual numbers that seem to drive men wild:

  • Sports jerseys. I don’t mean form-fitting women’s versions. I’m talking about regular, stadium-ready uniforms. When you wear a jersey, you combine a man’s two greatest loves — his girl and his team. It has quite an effect on them. And since jerseys are usually baggy, they fit anyone!

  • Men’s clothes. Specifically, your man’s clothes. Instead of walking in to the bedroom in your usual lingerie, try wearing one of your guy’s business shirts (make sure it’s not his best one!), buttoned up as much or as little as you like, with only panties underneath. High heels optional. Watch him melt.

  • Sweatshirts, baseball caps, jeans, etc. I don’t understand it. Sweatshirts hide my curves, and hoods and hats hide my hair. But almost every guy I’ve talked to or been with loved these simple, casual, ensembles. One offered an explanation: “It reminds me of college, when all the girls wore sweatshirts and had their hair in ponytails. Every girl seemed approachable back then.” Take note.

  • Pajamas. Not lingerie, not baby dolls, but full, long-sleeved pajamas. Another example of reverse psychology, in which the more you cover up, the more men want to uncover you.

  • Flannel. Another head-scratcher. Lumberjack fetish? Holdover trend from Juno? “I love a rugged woman,” says one of my guy friends, “If a girl can fish, pitch a tent, build a fire — I’m hers.” And even if you can’t do those things, you can still make men think you can. Roll up the sleeves and leave the top few buttons undone so you don’t look too masculine.

Do you have any other outfits that you wouldn’t think are sexy, but men seem to love?


You can quote me

I’m not the first person to write about love and sex. People like Jane Austen, Shakespeare, and Aristophanes beat me to it. Here are a few words of wisdom on the topic that’s as old as the cavemen.

The difference between sex and death is that with death you can do it alone and no one is going to make fun of you.
— Woody Allen

These impossible women! How they do get around us! The poet was right: Can’t live with them, or without them.
— Aristophanes

Love ceases to be a pleasure when it ceases to be a secret.
— Aphra Behn

Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction.
— Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind; And therefore is winged Cupid painted blind.
— William Shakespeare

Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place.
— Billy Crystal, When Harry Met Sally…

You don’t marry someone you can live with; you marry the person who you can’t live without.
— Unknown

I pay very little regard…to what any young person says on the subject of marriage. If they profess a disinclination for it, I only set it down that they have not yet seen the right person.
— Jane Austen

Real love stories never have endings.
— Richard Bach

Know of any great quotes about love, sex, or marriage? Let me know!

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